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3 Tips for Spending Your First Christmas in an Open Adoption

Christmas is a time for loved ones to get together and spend quality time with one another. Friends and family spend days bonding and creating fond holiday memories. Nobody should ever be alone during the holidays. It can be very challenging for some birth mothers who have just gone through adoption and are having their first Christmas since giving birth. It can be especially more challenging for those who are in an open adoption. However, never fear, Adoption Choices of Nevada is here to give you a few tips on how to spend Christmas in an open adoption in Vegas.

First, let us discuss what open adoption is and what it means for you and your child. Open adoption is an increasingly popular type of adoption. It allows for the birth mother to remain in contact with her child and the adoptive family post-placement. Depending on the level of openness with the adoption, you can have in-person visits with your child. If that is the case, it is possible that you would want to spend your first Christmas with them and the adoptive family. If you are nervous about how your holiday should go, we have some tips for you on how to make it a wonderful time. 

  1. Discuss the Holidays Ahead of Time: Discuss with your child’s adoptive family their plans for the holidays. Consider things like where you would like to have Christmas and whether or not you want to host it at your house or if you prefer to spend it in your child’s new forever home. It is also important to discuss with them ahead of time to ensure they do not have other holiday plans or the intention to travel elsewhere. There are many times when new families want to spend their first holiday at home with their child, but there are also other times where they want to spend it with the rest of their family. 
  2. Bring a Gift: It might sound silly even to mention bringing a gift, but it is not always thought of. Consider bringing your child and your child’s adoptive family a gift. Gift-giving can show thoughtfulness and affection. It can show your appreciation for being able to spend the holidays with your child under unusual circumstances. It also shows that you are thinking about your child and that you want to remain in their life as long as you are able to. Gifts also have a way of bringing joy to the receiver, which can lead to a fruitful day. 
  3. Be Open With an Open Adoption: Remember to keep an open mind when it comes to the holidays. Although you are in an open adoption, the adoptive family might have other plans on how to spend the holidays in mind. The thought of not spending your first Christmas with your child and their new family can be tough. However, that is how it might turn out, and it is important to keep that in mind. If the holidays do not seem to be working out how you hoped, reach out to us with your questions and concerns. We at Adoption Choices of Nevada can help you through this time. We never want you to think you are alone.

No matter your situation, Adoption Choices of Nevada is here for you all day, every day. The holidays are a time for reunion and laughter. Nobody deserves to spend it alone or to feel alone. Let us help you during the holidays, and let us celebrate Christmas with you. You might begin feeling regret, like you made the wrong decision by giving up your baby for adoption, especially if you are not able to spend your first Christmas with them. However, you made a selfless decision and should be proud of yourself for the strength you have acquired. 

Adoption Choices of Nevada has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can call us to speak to someone now. Contact Us 24/7: 855-940-4673 (Toll-Free) | 702-474-4673 (Las Vegas) | 775-825-4673 (Reno) | 775-738-4673 (Elko) | 775-884-4673 (Carson City).


Meet the Author: Gabriella Dobson was born and raised in Ohio. She is currently a senior at Miami University majoring in professional writing with a focus on editing. She also minors in criminology and general business. She is a skilled barista and enjoys sipping her coffee with a good book in her hand. She is passionate about helping others and making a difference in the lives around her. With her involvement in St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital and Women Helping Women, she is able to provide resources for those in need of support.