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5 Fears Birth Mothers Have About Open Adoption in Reno

By Nicole Cunningham

Adoption can be a hard process for birth mothers, both mentally and physically. It can cause fears that you didn’t even know you had. This is a perfectly normal feeling after giving up your baby for adoption in Nevada. Even though the process can be hard, just keep in mind that you are trying your best. Sometimes your best option is to give up a child for adoption

Here at Adoption Choices of Nevada(Reno), we want to help you every step of the way, which includes keeping you fully updated on the adoption process. That process can look different for everyone, and it affects everyone differently. For some, the process is easier than for others. But you are here because you have some fears that you are unsure of or how to handle. We want to help you overcome those fears. Part of overcoming those fears is knowing that your baby is going to have a better chance at life because you made the hard choice of placing them for a Reno adoption

1) Does giving my baby up for adoption make me selfish?

It’s hard to say that giving the baby up for adoption is a selfish act. You are doing what is best for the baby and trying to offer them a life that could be better than the one that you can give. This sacrifice makes you far from selfish. You are putting your child above everything else, and that is a selfless act.

2) Will the adoptive family allow me to have contact with my child?

The level of contact that you could have with your child will depend on the type of adoption you go through and how comfortable they are with allowing you into the child’s life. There are three different adoption types, each of which allows for more or less contact depending on what you and the adoptive parents agree on. If you want to have more contact, then an open adoption or a semi-open adoption would be the best option for you. If you don’t want any contact, then a closed adoption would be the best option. If you have more questions about the different types of adoption available to you, please contact us.

3) How can I make sure my child will not hate me?

You won’t have to worry about your child having any ill feelings towards you because most birth mothers, they choose the type of adoption plan that will make her the most comfortable. One of the benefits of open adoption, you are able to be a part of your child’s life with however much contact you and the adoptive parents agree on. Being able to be a part of your child’s life will help them be more understanding of the situation.

4) How will I know that the adoptive family will give them the kind of love they need?

This is probably one of the biggest fears that birth mothers will experience. It’s natural for you to feel this way. As the baby is yours, it is hard to imagine that someone else would be able to love them and take care of them like their own. However, these loving families for my baby have gone through tough and difficult processes to become adoptive parents. They want nothing more than to love and adore your baby as their own.

Am I going to be okay after choosing adoption?

It is hard to think about yourself in this situation, but eventually, you will be okay. Similar to any kind of loss you have felt before, with time, you will heal. It will take time, and as long as you are taking time for yourself to heal, everything will work out. If at any time you need to talk to someone professionally, Adoption Choices of Nevada (Reno) can help.

Fears are common with any big life changes you go through. There are always going to be fears that rise up in the back of your mind, but we are here to help you keep those fears at bay and ease you through every step of the process so you don’t have to worry about feeling these fears anymore when going through an adoption in Nevada. If you need any help with the adoption process or pregnancy adoption help, please contact us.