5 Reasons Why It’s not Too Late for After Delivery Adoption

When you envision what the typical adoption process looks like, you might imagine a pregnant woman who has been meticulously planning out the details of placing her baby for adoption since the first weeks of her pregnancy. The reality is, there is no such thing as a typical adoption process. Some women will choose to pursue adoption very early on, but others will need much more time to determine if that is the right path for them. In fact, many women will try to parent their children for a few months before placing them into a loving adoptive family. So, even if you have recently delivered, it’s not too late to pursue an after delivery adoption. 

With the support of Adoption Choices of Nevada, you can look forward to an after delivery adoption journey that will lead to a successful placement you can be proud of.

1. You have Plenty of Adoptive Families to Choose from

Just because you are pursuing adoption after giving birth doesn’t mean that you are out of options when choosing an adoptive family. While finding the right adoptive family for the child you’ve just delivered is a process, there is no shortage of adoptive families eager to welcome a new life into their homes. Don’t feel rushed into choosing an adoptive family right away. When you find the right adoptive family in your own time, you can be more confident in your choice. 

At Adoption Choices of Nevada, we have a very thorough investigation process that ensures that the prospective adoptive families we work with are qualified to adopt. We are just as thorough for after delivery adoptions as we are for expectant mothers pursuing adoption. Even if you choose an adoptive family quickly, you don’t have to worry that you are handing off the child to a couple or individual who doesn’t meet our standards. 

2. You Still get to Choose the Type of Adoption

It doesn’t matter if you’ve already given birth or if you’re months away from delivering. You still go through the same steps of the adoption process. The foundation of the adoption process is the adoption plan you put together as the birth mother. As a birth mother who has already delivered, one of the key components of your adoption plan is what type of adoption you want to enter into. 

When deciding what type of adoption to pursue, try to envision the different outcomes of each. Do you see yourself reuniting with your birth child some day? Are you eager to watch him or her grow up and thrive with the adoptive family you selected? Is it important to you that you play an active role in the child’s life? If you can’t imagine a future in which you are permanently separated from the baby you placed for adoption, then open or semi-open adoption are your best options. 

On the other hand, do you anticipate reuniting with your birth child being more painful than joyful? Do you seek closure by moving on completely from the child you are placing for adoption? Are you concerned that an open or semi-open adoption will compromise your privacy in a significant way? You might want to consider closed adoption as you put together your adoption plan if these are major concerns for you. 

3. You Still get to Select the Adoptive Parents

In addition to deciding the type of adoption to enter into, the other key component of your adoption plan is choosing who will raise your birth child. You chose to pursue adoption because you want the best possible outcome for your baby. Before you select an adoptive family, you need to carefully think about what the most important qualities are in the couple or individual who will raise the child. There are countless factors to consider when choosing an adoptive family who can offer the future you want for your baby. These include, but are not limited to:

• values 
• parenting style
• religious views
• urban vs. suburban vs. rural residence
• family size
• financial stability
• relationship stability (if the adoptive family is a couple)
• LGBT couple or individual
• transracial family

4. It’s not too Late to Receive Adoption Counseling 

Don’t let anything hold you back from getting the emotional help you need. Adoption Choices of Nevada has helped hundreds of women through their unique circumstances, and we are prepared to help you, too. Our counseling services are free of charge and free of judgement, so you don’t have to worry about affordability or feeling stigmatized.  It doesn’t matter if you’re still considering your options, or if you’re ready to begin your adoption journey. Many of the women we have helped over the years did not begin their adoption journeys until after giving birth, so it’s not too late to start your adoption journey either. 

5. You are Still in Control of the Adoption Process

When you are holding your newborn, and you realize that you are not ready to take on the burdens of parenthood, it can feel like everything is spinning out of control. Know that even when you pursue an after delivery adoption, you are still in complete control of the adoption process. Your parental rights are still fully intact. That means you have every right to change your mind about the adoptive family, the type of adoption you want, and even whether to follow through with the adoption up until you relinquish your rights to the adoptive family. 

Are You Ready to Begin Your After Delivery Adoption? 

Adoption Choices of Nevada wants to assure you that choosing to pursue an after delivery adoption doesn’t make your choice any less valid. You don’t need to feel guilty or ashamed or like you are giving up because of your choice. If you have just delivered and are ready to embark on your adoption journey, reach out to Adoption Choices of Nevada to get the help you need. 

Adoption Choices of Nevada has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can also call us to speak to someone now. Contact Us 24/7: 855-940-4673 (Toll-Free) | 702-474-4673 (Las Vegas) | 775-825-4673 (Reno) | 775-738-4673 (Elko) | 775-884-4673 (Carson City).

Meet the Author: Mary DeStefano is an Ohio native currently living in northern Virginia and works in the litigation consulting industry where she has experience in antitrust, product liability, and mass torts matters. She holds a B.A. in Economics (‘15) and an M.A. in Applied Economics (‘16) from the University of Cincinnati. 

Mary is passionate about empowering and supporting those involved in the adoption and surrogacy processes. She finds great meaning in wielding the written word to develop impactful narratives and to help people stay informed. In her spare time, Mary can be found beachcombing and going on other adventures with her dog along the shores of the Chesapeake Bay. She also has an affinity for antiquing and loves a good 80’s movie marathon.