When explaining adoption to your adopted child, it can be difficult to explain in a way that they fully understand. One highly successful method is to use stories of superheroes to convey that your child is loved, cared for, and forever appreciated – regardless of their early circumstances. Below, we’ve gathered interesting backstories about some of the most well-known superheroes. Through their positive narratives, you can help your child learn about adoption and move forward in life feeling confident, able, and loved.
1. Even Superman Was Adopted.
Superman was separated from his parents as an infant due to circumstances beyond his control. His birth parents loved him dearly, but they were compelled to send him to Earth so that he would escape the imminent explosion of his home planet Krypton. Raised by loving Earth parents under the name of Clark Kent, the child that would grow up to be Superman found that he had supernatural strength. He later used that strength to serve others as the Man of Steel.
2. Spider-Man Was an Orphan.
Spider-Man’s original identity was Peter Parker. His parents died in a plane crash when Peter was young, and he was raised by his aunt and uncle in Queens. As a teenager, he was thin – even scrawny – but possessed an exceptional mind and excelled in science. He was bitten by a radioactive spider giving him his super powers. However, it was through his own training, intelligence, and ingenuity that he crafted the suit and identity that made him known as Spider-Man. From there he chose to use his “spider senses” to fight for justice.
3. Batman Made His Own Family.
Just like Batman, you can tell your child, some people make their own families. Family is not only about the blood you share, but the love you share. As a wealthy millionaire with lots of resources at his disposal, Bruce Wayne had no superhuman powers. Like the other superheroes, he was exceptionally gifted, and chose his own path. He made a decision to become strong and athletic. And he decided to fight crime, save others, and seek justice after the death of his parents. At the same time, he built a family with his trusted servant Albert and his adopted son Dick Grayson (Robin).
4. Wonder Woman May Have Been a Princess, But She Didn’t Need to be Saved.
The popular Wonder Woman slogan “Not all princesses need to be saved” currently appears on tee-shirts and across the social media channels. Even if your child is a boy, he can understand from this saying that being adopted doesn’t mean that you can’t carry all you need inside of you to be happy, self-sufficient, smart, strong, resourceful, and courageous. Most of all, you can tell your child, Wonder Woman received special powers from the Greek gods that created her. She used those gifts to protect herself in adverse circumstances. You can mention this point to highlight whatever positive legacy your family or the birth family passes on to your child to ensure that she is protected and loved.
5. The X-Men Made Their Own Family.
Professor Charles Xavier’s School for Gifted Youngsters was created to give those that had no home a family and a place to grow. Many of the mutants in the X-Men were cast aside or grew up without a family. They all came together under Professor X’s roof and created their own family through love, respect, and a desire to be better and do more. Families come in all shapes and sizes and blood and heritage don’t have to decide who is and isn’t family.
Lessons superheroes can teach us:
- Resiliency:Their humble beginnings don’t matter. From small, bullied teenager to powerful beacons of hope, these superheroes bounce back from any adverse circumstances they confront.
- Adaptability:Like the displaced child that was sent to Earth and became Superman, you can show your child that they, too, have the capacity to adapt and flourish.
- Choosing your destiny.In each case, the individuals that became superheroes made a conscious decision on how they would lead their lives. Their beginnings did not decide who they were or who they could become.
- Ability to be loved:Lastly, all these superheroes are likable and lovable in their own way. Adoptive parents took them in and cared for them. Mentors helped them become strong and capable. Or they came from a background of strength and privilege, possessing a legacy of innate resourcefulness, skill, and independence to do whatever they wanted – and they chose to do good.
Talking with your adopted child about adoption can be tricky, especially as they grow. We recommend being open and honest with the child and answering all questions head on, but pulling parallels from some of their favorite characters can help them understand and even make them feel special.
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