By Staren Henry
Adoption is a difficult decision that most birth mothers enter headfirst. However, there are numerous reasons why you might decide to place your infant for adoption in Reno. Perhaps you do not believe in abortion. Perhaps you’ve had an unplanned pregnancy and aren’t ready to be a parent. Whatever it is, you have decided to offer your child a second chance at life and to provide a better future for them.
Many birth mothers experience lingering feelings of guilt after placing their child for private adoption. Many people wonder if they made the correct decision or if placing their child for adoption meant they were “giving up their baby” and didn’t love them enough. Nothing could be further from the truth. If you’re reading this, it’s obvious that you adore your child. There are, thankfully, numerous approaches to dealing with post-placement remorse. We work with birth mothers to make them feel safe, confident in their decision, and emotionally supported.
Adoption Counseling Following Post-Placement
1. Coping with Adoption Guilt
No birth mother chooses adoption on the spur of the moment. There are numerous little reasons and elements that lead you to contemplate adoption, all of which point to your desire for a better life for your child. Even yet, you may find yourself questioning your decision. First and foremost, take a deep breath, take a step back, and remind yourself of those reasons. Why did you go on this adventure in the first place? Do you still trust their arguments? This may assist you in calming down.
There are numerous services available to assist birth mothers in dealing with this abrupt sense of guilt. Adoption Choices of Nevada has birth mother counselors who may provide you with professional advice on dealing with post-placement grief. If you’re presently putting together an adoption plan, consider how you’ll handle the possibility of needing post-placement therapy.
The good thing about requesting help is that, as a birth mother, you have many options. Some of these options can be more structured if necessary or more relaxed and private.
2. Adoption Counseling and Support
For those who are really struggling with the grieving process, therapy can be a great option. Therapy is not one-size-fits-all, and a variety of options are available, including crisis intervention, solution-focused brief therapy, person-centered therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, and narrative therapy. You can have one-on-one sessions, or you can attend group sessions to see how others deal with their guilt. In either case, therapy can help you better identify and articulate your feelings in order to resolve them in a healthy manner.
3. Birth Mother Support Groups
Support groups bring together birth mothers like you and provide a safe space for them to express their emotions. Your adoption agency can assist you in locating a support group. Support groups are a judgment-free zone and are ideal if you are looking for a safe haven. Speaking with other birth mothers can provide you with new perspectives on the healing process while also making you feel less alone in your grief. Support groups can help you develop a sense of community, and you can give and receive emotional support by talking with others. There are numerous local adoptions to research for birth mother support groups.
Relying on your social circles can be just as effective as seeking professional, structured assistance. This entails reaching out to your personal network of family and friends for help. Finding reassurance in the people you see on a daily basis can be extremely reassuring and validating. This period of seeking assistance may strengthen your emotional bonds with friends and family. And because these people are already a regular and easily accessible part of your life, they can offer you a sense of security and normalcy that other options may not be able to provide.
We at Adoption Choices of Nevada are Here to Help!
Remember that you are not the first birth mother to experience feelings of shame or guilt. It is completely normal to have to deal with and overcome these emotions, especially if this is your first time placing a child for adoption. Adoption Choices of Nevada will do everything possible to assist you in healing and maintaining a stable mental state. We are concerned about you and your child.
Adoption Choices of Nevada has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can call us to speak to someone now. Contact Us 24/7: 855-940-4673 (Toll-Free) | 702-474-4673 (Las Vegas) | 775-825-4673 (Reno)