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Birth Mother Grief and Loss: What is it and How to Overcome it?

By Jessica Exstrom

It is often with a heavy heart that birth mothers struggle after placing their child for adoption. The emotions are strong, and many unfamiliar feelings often come up. During the difficult process of adoption, it can be difficult to stay positive and see all the good you are doing as a birth mother. Your baby’s adoption in Las Vegas or Reno doesn’t have to be so negative. There are things you can do to try and lift your spirits and help you realize all the good you are doing for your baby. There will always be bad feelings that occur when pursuing adoption, but there are things to look forward to and be proud of.

What Giving Your Baby Up Might Feel Like

When considering your feelings, it’s important to understand what exactly you are going through. Adoption is a huge, life-altering decision. It takes a lot of time and consideration to pursue adoption, and the final decision can be draining for birth parents. You may feel like you are losing a lot, and you are, but you are, in turn, giving your baby so much. That’s why it’s important you are never giving up anything when “giving up your baby” for adoption; You are creating an opportunity and chance for your baby to have a safe, loving, and better life. 

Placing your baby for adoption doesn’t mean that you are incapable of being a good parent. There is strength in your ability to recognize the situation you’re in and decide that your child needs more. You are so brave for having this ability, and it is for the best for your baby. Your love and dedication to your child are only shown more through your decision to pursue adoption. And this adoption doesn’t have to be all negative. If you are able to see the good that you are causing, it can feel easier to come to terms with the situation. Overcoming this grief you feel can be a good thing to pursue. 

Overcoming the Grief of Adoption

Adoption agencies can make the adoption process a little bit easier. With Adoption Choices of Nevada, we understand your situation. We know the hours and hours of time and love you’ve put into the care of your baby, and we know how strong you are. That’s why we can help you overcome the bitter feelings that come with placing your child for adoption.

There are a few ways to get through the grief of your baby’s adoption. First, understanding why you chose adoption can be very beneficial. It can be because of financial stability, your age, or that it’s simply not the right time for you to have a baby. Along with other reasons, knowing why you have chosen this for yourself and your baby, and accepting that reason, is necessary to get through your grief. There is no shame in this decision, regardless of the reason. 

The next way to get through grieving your adoption is by utilizing the resources from your adoption agency. With our local agency in Nevada, you are not left on your own after your baby is born. To start, there is a whole adoption plan to be made for your baby’s adoption. Before the hospital visit, during, and after, you get to make the call to contact adoptive parents and how long you want with your baby. After your baby is born, you can spend as much time with your child. You can spend quality time with your baby, name your baby, and more. Then, you still aren’t left alone. We offer care post-placement, including aid and specific care you plan out with your adoption specialist. Various expenses and counseling/therapy can be part of your post-adoption plan, helping you after the loss of your baby. 

Accepting the Reality of Your Adoption Journey

We know how you might feel. We understand your strong emotions and negative feelings. In the face of everything, what’s important is that you understand the decision you’ve made and why you made it. You are strong, courageous, and full of so much love for your baby. We admire the sacrifices you have made and hope that we can help you through your baby’s adoption process. Take the time you need, learn from yourself, and recognize the work you have put into having a beautiful child. You have put in so much already, and it may be time to let someone else take over.

Adoption Choices of Nevada has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can call us to speak to someone now. Contact Us 24/7: 855-940-4673 (Toll-Free) | 702-474-4673 (Las Vegas) | 775-825-4673 (Reno)