By: Moki Murillo
Holidays are great, but it can be complicated for certain families. Many people would love to spend the holidays with their families, but what if adoption is in the picture?
There are many women who are pregnant, and adoption seems to be their child’s best option. After all, not every birth mothers is able to raise their children in a safe and stable environment. This is especially true if unplanned pregnancy is involved. If you have these circumstances, then it is perfectly reasonable to at least consider this option. Even if you go through with this, you don’t have to say goodbye to holidays with your child forever.
Adoption Choices of Nevada, as a private adoption agency, allows birth mothers to personalize the adoption process. How you choose to go about this will affect your ability to spend the holidays with your child. Your chosen adoption type and the matching process are the biggest factors that determine how you can celebrate.
To begin the adoption process, you must first contact one of our adoption agencies in Nevada. After calling Adoption Choices of Nevada, you will be connected to one of our adoption specialists. Your adoption specialist should tell you how to put your child up for adoption. One of the more important steps is the formation of an adoption plan. This plan allows you to choose your adoption type. When it comes to adoption in Nevada, your adoption type determines your relationship with the adoptive family. Your adoption plan also determines your child’s adoptive family during the matching process.
Closed Adoptions and the Holidays
According to Nevada adoption standards, a closed adoption involves no contact between the birth parents and the adoptive family. This means that you can’t see your child, not even for the holidays. While this adoption type can be difficult for birth mothers, the holidays are an opportunity for new traditions. These traditions can celebrate your child’s life and the motherhood you wish to find in the future. You can also seek the company of your friends and family during holidays. Care and support from your loved ones can do wonders for both your comfort and mental health. Whether or not you have anyone for the holidays, let your imagination go wild. Examples of new traditions can include baking cookies and ugly sweater contests.
Open Adoptions and the Holidays
An open adoption, as you can imagine, allows regular contact between the birth parents and the adoptive family. While this adoption type allows you to see your child during the holidays, you need the adoptive parents’ consent. Even if you get this consent, you must remember that the adoptive parents have legal custody of your child. Although you are your child’s biological parent, they have been raised by their adoptive parents. Your child will always love their adoptive parents, but there is also room for you. Boundaries need to be set within this special web of relationships, but there is still joy to be found.
If you have the consent of the adoptive parents, you can attend holiday dinners and parties. This can allow you to get to know your child and form a connection with them. Bringing gifts helps, but make sure you talk with the adoptive parents on topics, such as price. These occasions can also allow you to form a connection with the adoptive family as well. In the best case scenario, this friendship may allow future interactions to feel easier and more fulfilling. At the very least, your child will feel better knowing that all their parents are getting along.
Semi-Open Adoptions and the Holidays
A semi-open adoption is one that allows limited contact between the birth parents and the adoptive family. What makes semi-open adoptions different is that the birth parents are not allowed to see the adoptee. Even with this limitation, there are opportunities to include your child during the holidays. While communicating with your child is off the table, you can send greeting cards or even gifts. The adoptive parents, however, still need to approve of these actions. If all goes well, your child will at least know that their birth mother is still thinking of them. This advice is also applicable to open adoptions, where contact is allowed but optional.
Choosing the Adoptive Family
When it comes to determining your child’s adoptive family, the birth mother has a say in the matter. If you choose an open or semi-open adoption, you can select one of the families on our website. You can view each family’s online profile, and you can even interview them. We strongly suggest that you consider each family carefully if you pursue an open or semi-open adoption. While these families are legally able to adopt in Nevada, they are all different in their own ways.
One criteria to consider is the family’s financial status. You probably want your child to have as many opportunities as possible, such as a good education. Knowing whether or not the family can afford it is not an unreasonable question. Another important consideration is the adoptive family’s values, political or otherwise. As the birth mother, you have the right to know how your child will be raised. After all, you will be trusting your child’s future to another family. It is only right that this family are people you approve of. One last important consideration is the family’s cultural or religious background. While family doesn’t need to be restricted by color or creed, culture can affect your holiday plans. You could still attend their celebrations if you have the adoptive parents’ consent. This can even be an enlightening experience for you to take part in your child’s new cultural heritage. It is generally simpler if you and the adoptive family share holidays, however. There is no shame in wanting to celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, or Eid with your child and their family.
Moving Forward with Adoption
There is no shame in admitting that you can’t take care of a baby. If you have children, it’s okay if you are not in a position to take care of another baby. Adoption is an option worth considering if you want a better future for your child. Even after your child is placed, your relationship with them doesn’t have to end there. Depending on your adoption plan, you can spend the holidays with your child and their family. While this is different from traditional family holidays, it is no less valid. From the bottom of our hearts, Adoption Choices of Nevada wishes you happy holidays.
If you are pursuing a Nevada adoption, consider calling our adoption agencies first.