Dating After Adoption: How to Talk About Adoption with Your Partner
By Tyra Watts
The dating world is an exciting place for some. Hundreds of single men and women are looking for different things (e.g., hooking up/”friends with benefits,” a potential relationship, etc.), hoping to find “the one.” However, something that is not discussed when it comes to dating is dating an individual who has placed their baby for adoption. This can be difficult for birth mothers who have given their children up for adoption. Not knowing when and how to tell your partner about their adoption can be a worrisome experience. However, Adoption Choices of Nevada are more than happy to help you with this.
Do I Have To Tell My Partner About The Adoption?
Adoption agencies in Nevada, especially in areas such as adoption in Las Vegas, understand that telling your partner about the adoption can be hard for many reasons. For one, you may not know your partner’s views on adoption. Are they for it? Are they against it? Have they been involved in an adoption? The list goes on. However, it is best to tell your partner about your adoption. Relationships are built on trust, and trust is very important. Nine times out of ten, you would want your partner to trust you and vice versa. Letting your partner know about your adoption in Nevada can reveal to your partner that you’re willing to open up to them about your past. If it goes well, your partner may hopefully open up to you the way you did to them.
How Should I Go About Explaining My Adoption To My Partner?
It may be challenging to figure out when and where to tell your partner about your adoption process, but it all depends on the timing. It’s always best, to tell the truth sooner rather than later. Waiting until later could harm the relationship. The next step to this is to practice what to say to them. You can do this by writing it down and having a friend or family member proofread it, or do some roleplay and have someone pretend to be your partner and practice it on them.
The goal is to ensure you are honest and truthful about the adoption plan. After you’ve practiced everything, if you’re ready, then you can reach out to your partner and plan on meeting up with them. When you’re face to face with your partner when the day comes, you tell them everything. Try to keep calm and relax while remembering what you’ve practiced.
How May My Partner React?
As stated earlier, telling your partner about giving up a child for adoption can be hard, with one of the reasons being your partner’s views on adoption. If they are someone who is in support of adoption, then their reaction may be a positive one. They’ll most likely appreciate that you were honest with them and bold enough to tell them something this important. Your partner may even ask you questions about the adoption (e.g., “What made you want to place your child for adoption?”, “What was the experience like?” etc.).
However, if your partner is against adoption, their reaction may not be so exciting. They’ll probably ask you questions and may or may not appreciate you telling them about the adoption. If your partner feels this way about the adoption, you may have to reevaluate the relationship. Your child may be in your life, depending on what adoption plan (open, semi-open, and closed) you choose. At some point, your child and your partner may cross paths. Would you want your child to be around a partner that doesn’t approve of your adoption? All in all, there isn’t an exact reaction. Your partner could feel many emotions all at once, so it is best to be truthful about it.
We At Adoption Choices of Nevada Are Here To Help
Jumping back into the dating world after placing your child for adoption is not an easy process. It takes time and practice to tell this kind of news to your partner. If you are someone who is struggling to tell their partner about their adoption or someone who wants to put their child up for adoption, Adoption Choices of Nevada has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can call us to speak to someone now. Contact Us 24/7: 855-940-4673 (Toll-Free) | 702-474-4673 (Las Vegas) | 775-825-4673 (Reno) | 775-884-4673 (Carson City).