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Emotional Journey: Navigating the Spectrum of Feelings When Considering Adoption

By Vanessa Martinez

Making a big decision can be an extremely challenging time in one’s life. As a birth mother, we know putting your baby up for adoption can come with many conflicting emotions. Here at Adoption Choices of Nevada, we understand that you might be feeling grief, depression, or even joy when placing your baby for adoption. We also know we are here to help! 

Grief When Considering Adoption? 

Understanding the difference in your emotions can be key to knowing how to handle them. As a birth mother choosing adoption in Nevada, you’ll have lots of different emotions swirling within you. Some might be more prominent than others. Grief can manifest in different ways for people, as well as being an emotion that ebbs and flows. It might help to look at the 5-stages of the grief model when experiencing these emotions.

  1. Denial
  2. Sadness
  3. Anger
  4. Bargaining
  5. Acceptance

It also helps to remember that grieving isn’t linear and might start at different stages. Maybe you are just thinking of how to put a child up for adoption and visiting our site, adoption Nevada, or you are further along in the process of your adoption. It is perfectly normal and healthy to feel grief in both of these stages or not at all. As the birth mother, it’s important for you to give yourself time and space to feel these emotions, as this is the best way to heal. Grief can also feel like a misplaced emotion at this time; after all, you know that placing your baby up for adoption is the best choice for your future. Knowing that grief fades with time is important; it may come back with flashes and memories, but with time, you will feel the grief less and less. 

Depression and Adoption Grief

Depression is a different feeling than grief and has different symptoms as well. It may feel like a never-ending sadness or a lack of energy to do your usual activities. There are also many different symptoms of depression, like low mood, changes in sleep patterns, and difficulty concentrating. It is normal to feel emotional sadness as a birth mother choosing adoption. However, depression can turn into a more serious problem if left untreated, and it can feel like the emotions will overwhelm you, and you might feel suicidal ideations. It’s important to know that asking for help isn’t embarrassing or humiliating. It’s completely normal. 

How Do I Know When to Ask My Adoption Agency for Help?

Asking for help can be a difficult decision. Just like deciding to place your baby up for adoption, this can seem like a monumental task. However, there are times when asking for help is the only choice. When choosing adoption, a birth mother might feel very complicated emotions, like deep sadness. This sadness can lead to depression. If left untreated, depression can worsen with time and make it harder to live life.

When feeling depressed, it’s important to reach out for help if the symptoms are getting worse or not feeling better after two weeks. You can feel comfort in knowing that Adoption Choices of Nevada is here to help no matter what you are feeling. When looking at different adoption agencies, it’s important to know how they will support you when dealing with different situations life can bring. Adoption Nevada knows that there are many different ways to experience feelings, which is why we offer many different resources to birth mothers. 

What if I Feel Neither When Considering Adoption?

Choosing adoption doesn’t have to be an experience that leaves you feeling grief or depression. Maybe you are feeling excitement for you and your baby’s future, knowing you made the best decision and chose an open adoption. Or maybe you are feeling relieved, as we know that an unplanned pregnancy can make you feel as though you’ve lost control of your future, and having plans set back in place can be a relief. As a birth mother, you should feel happy and confident in your decision and know that you have an adoption plan in place. 

Here at Adoption Choices of Nevada, we want every birth mother who chooses adoption to feel confident in their choice. We want you to know that every emotion you feel during and after the adoption process is valid, and we hear you. You are entitled to feel any sort of way, and we won’t judge; we’ll be here to help! Please find our resources on our site.