How Choosing the Adoptive Family Happens in Nevada
It is time to sit down and read all the profiles of potential adoptive families, but you aren’t sure where to start. Not knowing where to even begin is a common problem for many birth-mothers-to-be. It is hard to know what to look for or what you may even want. Don’t worry, at Adoption Choices of Nevada, we want to help you figure out what is best for you.
This can be an overwhelming time, as there are so many loving and deserving adoptive families out there who would love to raise your child. But you can’t choose them all. How on earth can you narrow them down to find the one who best fits you?
This is how the process of choosing the adoptive family works in a Nevada adoption.
Choosing Adoptive Families
This process happens after you determine what kind of adoption you want to have. When you know if you want an open, semi-open, or closed adoption, you can then move forward in thinking about what is best for your child. Determining what you envision for your child is important, as your adoption caseworker will bring you the adoptive parent profiles based on those preferences.
Here are just a few ideas to get you started:
- A family who already has children
- A family who wants to start their family with one child
- Interracial families or races different from your race
- Different sexualities than yours or rather part of the LGBTQ+ community
- Do you want someone who lives in the big city or more rural?
- Would you mind a single parent or do you want a couple?
- If religion plays a role for you or not
Once you narrow it down with those questions, you can start the interviewing process where you get to meet the potential adoptive parents.
Interviewing Adoptive Families
Going into an interview can be this awkward phase. No one likes to be put on the spot after all, and most interviews send anxiety through anyone. Just know that you aren’t the only one feeling the anxiety bubbling up. Embrace the fact that this step in the process is going to be awkward.
There is a whole list of questions that you should ask adoptive parents and some that you shouldn’t. Be mindful about what you are asking them, but get the information you need. If you think a question is rude or insensitive, then don’t ask it. Things like asking about money, why they can’t have children, and the like should be avoided. Asking the right questions — ones that have the wellbeing of your child in mind, for instance — will lead you to the adoptive family who is right for you. Remember, you aren’t looking for perfection, as that doesn’t exist. Rather, you’re looking for the adoptive family who you feel best suits what you think your child needs in a family.
Here are two questions that you should ask in your interviews to get a feel for how the potential adoptive parents would react to certain questions:
- “How would you handle the question of why you chose adoption?” This question opens up a dialogue about how they would handle this situation. You will get to see how they would handle an awkward situation from a stranger that doesn’t know their story.
- “How would you handle someone saying you aren’t their ‘real’ parent?” There are going to be people that will always assume the adoptive parent isn’t a “real” parent. What does that even mean? A parent is someone who loves their child with no conditions. Someone who does what is best for their child despite how hard it can be.
You — the birth mother — are a parent. Knowing how a potential adoptive parent might react to this question can say a lot about a person.
How will You go about Choosing the Adoptive Family for Your Child?
When it comes to finding the right adoptive family for your child, you are going to know what is best. Don’t doubt yourself or second guess anything. You are the one who is going to know which adoptive family is the right one for you and your child. Trust yourself and know that once you get past the awkward meeting phase, you are going to be okay. It just takes some effort to get past it and onto the rest of your adoption journey. Now, are you ready to start the rest of your adoption journey?
Adoption Choices of Nevada has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can also call us to speak to someone now. Contact Us 24/7: 855-940-4673 (Toll-Free) | 702-474-4673 (Las Vegas) | 775-825-4673 (Reno) | 775-738-4673 (Elko) | 775-884-4673 (Carson City).
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