How to Choose the Type of Adoption You Want in Your Adoption Plan
When you start on your journey into the world of adoption, one of the first things you decide is the type of adoption you want. It is a big step and one that dictates what kind of relationship you are going to have later on with your child and the adoptive parents. It is scary to take such a big leap when you aren’t sure, and that is why we are here.
A tAdoption Choices of Nevada, we want you to be as informed as possible when it comes to choosing which option is going to be best for you. There is no right or wrong answer to the type of adoption that fits. Let’s look at the different types of adoption and what they mean.
Choosing an Open Adoption
This is becoming the most popular option when it comes to adoption. Why? The reason for this is that it allows for open communication between you and the adoptive family. You don’t have to go through the agency to speak with one another. This could be pictures, visitation, or anything else you can think of for communicating with one another.
It can feel really strange, though, from both sides. On your side, you are going to see the baby you gave birth to raised by people that aren’t you. From their side, they could see a parent who is going to judge them or tell them how to raise their baby. Both are valid worries to have when it comes to this type of adoption. Not only that, but it can be just awkward at first.
There are so many true benefits to this type of adoption, though. There is open communication that allows you to be a part of his or her world as they grow up. Medical history is opened up so there is no guessing when it comes to doctor’s visits later on down the line. Family traditions can even be introduced to the adoptive family to give them an idea of their baby’s culture.
If you go into this option, understand that communication is going to come in seasons. There may be a time where it is often, but there may be times it is slow. This is perfectly natural as life comes in seasons too. Don’t worry. It will pick up again. Remember, though, before you start communicating, give yourself time to heal.
Choosing a Semi-Open Adoption
This type of adoption is where all communication is through the adoption agency. There are often letters, pictures, and maybe videos shared. However, the communication isn’t direct. Our adoption agency uses a secure, confidential and safe online portal called ChildConnect. This type of communication can take longer as there is an extra step involved, but it will get to you in time.
This type of adoption is best for birth mothers who need space. Sometimes space is needed in order to heal, and not having that direct contact makes it easier. There is nothing wrong with that either. If you want the ability to communicate but don’t want it to be direct, then that is alright. That is why this option exists. It allows for future questions to be answered, but both you and the adoptive family get to have your own space that is just yours.
Things like medical history can be shared. If this is important to you, but you still want some form of privacy, then this is the adoption option for you.
Choosing a Closed Adoption
Unlike the other two types of adoption, this is where there is no communication between you and the adoptive family. This used to be the most popular adoption, but it has since started to become less and less. It is still a valid option though, and it is still done to this day.
Women who choose this type of adoption all have various reasons. If you do not want any communication and need the space, then this is the adoption for you. No personal information is going to be shared. There will be no medical history shared, last names, or anything else that could be used to identify either party will be given.
Everyone heals differently and, no matter the reason for that, you can still pick this option if you need to. Your adoption caseworker will not judge you for wanting a closed adoption and will work just as hard to make this the adoption you want.
What Type of Adoption do You Want?
Each journey through adoption is going to be different and your story is going to be unique to you. What the adoption type comes down to is how much communication you want between you and the adoptive parents. There is no right or wrong way to do this and, hopefully, this blog helped you figure out what your options are. If you need more information, don’t be afraid to talk to your adoption caseworker. Their job is to help you. So, are you ready for the next step of making your adoption plan?
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