There will be special moments and different challenges for adoptive parents after they bring their new child home. It can be one of the most exciting and stressful times for the adoptive family. You are swirling with a mixture of emotions and concerns. Parents may go into the adoption not knowing if they will be the right fit, or if they will be able to provide for their child. Part One of this blog series explores the mental and emotional support for adopted individuals. Part two will address family adjustments after adoption and, in particular, the adoptive parents’ mental and emotional well-being.
Mental and Emotional Impact
Adoption is a life-changing event and impacts everyone differently. Prospective adoptive parents will experience an adjustment period, which will vary from person to person. It may occur during the adoption process, or after the adoption has been finalized. There will no doubt be moments where the adoptive parents have questions and concerns regarding how their child will adjust with the family and vice versa. They may wonder if they can adequately provide for all their child’s needs, and correctly care for them. Adoption affects not only the adopted child, but also the prospective adoptive parents, and puts things into perspective. Parenting is, by far, one of the hardest and most rewarding jobs a person can have. It takes a special kind of individual to become a parent, as children — adopted or not — will test your strength and patience.
Throughout the years, there will be important milestones the child will go through. During this time, parents may question if they are doing enough for their child. Parents may encounter identity and adoption issues, similar but different from what their adopted child may feel. If their child was adopted at an older age, their child can experience abandonment issues and wonder if their new parents will leave them. Along those same lines, prospective adoptive parents may fear their adopted child may leave if reunited with their birth family.
The mental and emotional aspect for the adoptive parent, similar to the adoptive child, should not be ignored. Parents need to take care of themselves mentally and physically. In doing so, they will be able to focus on the child’s needs and provide for a happy and healthy child. No parent is perfect, but each parent may want to look for additional resources on how to manage their own mental and emotional support. Looking outside of the family for help does not mean the adoptive parents have failed, but rather they are taking charge of the issues and trying to create a better life for them and their family.
Adoption Choices of Nevada
If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of Nevada. You may visit the website here or contact us by 775-825-4673 (Reno Office) or 702-474-4673 (Las Vegas Office). Our hours are Monday through Friday, 9am-5pm PST.
Support Adoption Choices
Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.
However, we can’t do it alone. Please read up on our programs and donate money where you are able. Your donation will make a huge impact.
About the Author
Rachel Strom graduated from Lehman College in the Bronx in May of 2018, where she received her bachelors in Professional Writing. After receiving her education at Lehman College, Rachel is currently interning at Adoption Choices Inc., where she is a weekly blogger.
Rachel was adopted from Asuncion, Paraguay in 1991. Her adoption experience has helped her write articles for Adoption Choices Inc., from the perspective of an adoptive individual. She hopes her articles will help someone looking into adoption or encourage those currently in the process.
When Rachel is not writing for Adoption Choices Inc. or her own novels she enjoys her other passion for baking, where she resides, in the New York City area. When she is baking, music is always playing throughout the kitchen while she is whipping up a delectable dessert for her friends and adoptive family.
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