There are probably a million and one thoughts running through your head right now. Together, let’s take a moment to breathe. To talk about you. We know that you haven’t made these actions a priority. However, you are a part of the beautiful equation that is adoption. Without you, well, adoption really wouldn’t exist. The process of adoption isn’t just about the adoptee or the adoptive parents, even though they are important parts, too. But, how will adoption affect you? Will it have a positive impact on your life or a negative one?
Here at Adoption Choices of Nevada, we want to help you the best we can. Be that answering questions or acting as your emotional confidante. When all seems lost, we’ll be your guiding light. We won’t let you forget your bigger picture, and that’s why we created this list of positive impacts on birth mothers during adoption. Because, even in the most trying times, there are highlights of good.
1. Peace of Mind
It may sound strange to think of how there could be any peace of mind during this time in your life. Truth is, if you do not have a support system, the process of adoption can be really stressful. Reaching out to an adoption agency is a good place to start. An adoption professional offers you a safe space to ask any questions or address any concerns you have. This, in turn, can help provide you with overall peace of mind about the process itself and give you a sense of comfort, encouragement and support that you didn’t have before. Maybe your family doesn’t understand why you would place your child up for adoption. Or, maybe they have the same questions you do. Whatever the case, learning the benefits and details about choosing adoption will give you the peace of mind you deserve.
2. Higher Education
Did you know that single mothers are less likely to finish college? That’s not to say that they can’t. In fact, it’s fully possible! Statistically, however, only 28% of single mothers graduate college annually. It has nothing to do with college being difficult. Rather, it comes down to all a single mother has to do. She has to work, take care of her little one and go to school. That is a lot to juggle for anyone. The percentage of women who graduate goes up nearly 30% if they don’t yet have children. Higher education can lead to a career that allows you to be more prepared for a family in the future.
3. Picking the Adoptive Parents
The adoption process may feel like it is out of your control, but it isn’t. You will be able to pick out the adoptive parents who will welcome your baby into their family. The process will go through the adoption agency, but you’ll be there every step of the way. As you should be! This is your plan, after all, and your adoption agency will work with you to find the perfect fit for you and your little one. You can talk about details like naming your child, contact post adoption, and visitation rules and regulations. Just because you picked adoption does not mean that you have to say goodbye forever to your child. It will just be a different dynamic. With the rise of more open adoptions, you aren’t forced to have any contact or lack thereof.
4. Reducing Stress
It is no secret that little ones come with a mighty price tag. We love the little babies of the world, but not everyone is able to take on such financial strain. Cribs, clothing, formula, diapers, toys, daycare, bottles, etc. Everything a baby needs adds up. If you are not in a spot for that, then the stress can mount quickly and feel overwhelming. By deciding that adoption is right for you, you will no longer have the added stress of being financially stable before your child makes his or her appearance in this world. No longer will you have to worry about if your child will have to go without something because you can’t afford it.
It should be made clear that there is no shame in admitting that you cannot afford to have a child right now. It is your right to say that you can’t and to find someone who can.
5. Family When You are Prepared
Right now may not be the best time to create a family. Maybe you don’t have the support of the birth father or your own family. Choosing adoption allows you to continue on your path until you are ready for a family. For when you are emotionally and financially stable. When you can fully prepare for a family, there’s less stress on you, which makes for a happy baby. It allows you to have time to bond with your baby as well. From being able to afford to take off work for maternity leave to knowing that you have everything you need for your bundle of joy.
Positive Impacts on Birth Mothers
Being a birth mother may not always be portrayed in the best light. There is too much negative information out there, and that isn’t fair to you. You have every right to feel like you made the right choice to have control.
Remember, if you have any more questions, call one of our adoption professionals. We are more than happy to walk you through anything you have questions about. We want you to be as comfortable as possible during this time. You are just as important in this equation as your child and his or her potential adoptive parents. Your feelings, thoughts, and comfort matter.
Adoption Choices of Nevada
If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of Nevada. You may visit the website here or contact us by 775-825-4673 (Reno Office) or 702-474-4673 (Las Vegas Office). Our hours are Monday through Friday, 9am-5pm PST.
Support Adoption Choices
Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.
However, we can’t do it alone. Please read up on our programs and donate money where you are able. Your donation will make a huge impact.
About the Author
Tia Kitchens is a college graduate with a B.S in Psychology from Capella University who has always had a passion for three things: animals, writing, and mac ‘n cheese. Two of these three are things she has based her work around. Animals are a big impact on her life due to her love for helping others through difficult situations. Through her studies, she has found the human-animal bond is strong enough to help others. This, paired with her writing, helps her record her findings and teach others through her words.
She is excited to join Adoption Choices as an Editorial Intern because she’s wanted to adopt since she was little, and is excited to learn about the industry and the adoption journey.
Her goal is to make a change in the world with her words and end up on someone’s inspiration Pinterest board! Being a key quote on someone’s Pinterest board it shows her words have a huge impact on people. They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but if that picture is just words it surely means more that way! To learn more about her, follow her on Twitter and Instagram!
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