Now that you have your son or daughter, you may have a few questions or worries about being a transracial adoptive parent. This is perfectly normal! Adoption Choices of Nevada is ready and available to help. Here are our resources for transracial adoptions. Don’t worry. By the time you’ve finished this blog, you’ll know where to go and what things you and your new family can do together.
How does that sound? Let’s get started!
The Wonderful World of Books
Long before you started your journey on this path to transracial adoption, someone else did it before you. Thankfully for everyone, they sat down and wrote plenty of books about their journeys, and included the helpful things they learned along the way. Pretty amazing, right?
- Dreams from My Father: A Story of Race and Inheritance by Barack Obama is a book that details what it is like to be a black male in a while family. It is a memoir that offers a good view inside the look of white parents parenting a child of a different race. If your family is going to be a white family adopting a black son or daughter, this is a good start. The book isn’t political and shows an open and honest view. It is available in print, eBook or audiobook formats.
- Come Rain or Come Shine: A White Parent’s Guide to Adopting and Parenting Black Children by Rachel Garlinghouse showcases what it is like to be white parents adopting a black child. Not only does it have lots of resources inside, it also discusses advice from adoption specialists.
- In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories by Rita Simon & Rhonda Roorda is actually two different books! It is a collection of interviews from adoptees telling their experiences growing up in transracial homes. It shows a unique perspective of the children to help parents better understand what it is like from their eyes.
There are many other books that offer support, insight, and understanding out there. A great list was created with 15 books to start off with that show various perspectives.
Real World Blogs
Books are not the only thing that can help, though! There are plenty of blogs out there from parents just like you, or even from adoptees themselves. Each provides a first-person perspective of their lives.
- Full Plate Mom is a lovely blog started by a wife and husband who began with domestic transracial adoption. This blog has been going since she started adopting as a way to document her and her husband’s journey. Now with nine kids total, she shows the travels, ups and downs, and overall life of parents who adopted transracially.
- The Adopted Life is a wonderful website created by Angela Trucker that documents her life as an adoptee. If you are wanting to get more involved in adoption rights and being an advocate for your child, this is the place to be. Since 2013, Angela has been working on how to support adopted children, be it transracial or otherwise.
- White Sugar, Brown Sugar happens to be owned by a mother blogging her experiences as a white mother raising a dark-skinned child. This is an excellent blog towards domestic adoptions and the experiences that come with it. While your journey will likely be different, it is good to know what can happen along the way.
- Confessions of an Adoptive Parent is a resource page of almost everything you will ever need when thinking about transracial adoptions. This family has podcasts, books and advice all on the top links of their site. If your child is special needs, they have a section for that as well.
These are, of course, only the tip of the iceberg when gathering information. The internet, library and local bookstore are all great places to find additional resources. If you are looking for a particular angle within transracial adoption, Google can help point you in the right direction as well.
Support Groups and Social Media
There is a whole different world when it comes to social media. People are staying connected and there are plenty of stories about adoptees finding their birth parents or siblings through social media. But there is another side for adoptive parents just like you!
Facebook is a treasure trove of support groups for adoptive parents. Some groups are going to be local to your area while others are nationwide. It truly depends on the group and what their goal is. From bringing people together in a community to just being a support system. Remember, though, that not every Facebook group is created equally! Some are not monitored well or at all. The ones listed below have a good reputation, but it is up to you to decide if you want to be a part of the group.
- Transracial Adoptive Perspective (TAP) is a nationally known support group, with members from all walks of life. From birth parents to adult transracial adoptees. With nearly 6,000 members, it is a large group, but it is a private group. To join, you have to ask for permission. Once approved, you will find posts and discussions.
- Joy Filled is a group dedicated to transracial adoption families. By their introduction, it is a place to bond and ask questions you may not be able to find anywhere else. It is a much smaller group than TAP is, which may make it less intimidating when first joining.
- Adoption support groups in every state listed are also a great way to connect with people face to face. So far, the list does show that Arkansas, Delaware, Iowa, Mississippi, Rhode Island, Vermont, and West Virginia are all states that do not have a support group listed.
If you and your family are religious, it is worth looking into your local church/temple/synagogue for support as well. It is a great place to start with a community that you may already be a part of.
Resources For Transracial Adoptions
There are many options for support when it comes to your family. Be it in the form of a book or meeting up with those around you. Hopefully one of these things helps you by answering your questions or soothing your worries. Your child is going to grow up loved by you and, despite bumps in the road, you can handle them.
Adoption Choices of Nevada
If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of Nevada. You may visit the website here or contact us by 775-825-4673 (Reno Office) or 702-474-4673 (Las Vegas Office). Our hours are Monday through Friday, 9am-5pm PST.
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About the Author
Tia Kitchens is a college graduate with a B.S in Psychology from Capella University who has always had a passion for three things: animals, writing, and mac ‘n cheese. Two of these three are things she has based her work around. Animals are a big impact on her life due to her love for helping others through difficult situations. Through her studies, she has found the human-animal bond is strong enough to help others. This, paired with her writing, helps her record her findings and teach others through her words.
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“Seven Suggestions for a Successful Transracial Adoption.” AdoptUSKids, www.adoptuskids.org/adoption-and-foster-care/how-to-adopt-and-foster/envisioning-your-family/transracial-adoption.