The decision of selecting your child’s adoptive family is huge. It is the choice that determines what kind of future they will have post birth. What type of family and world they will be raised in. That said, it’s important to outline any specific wants and desires you have as your child’s birth mother when creating your adoption plan with your caseworker. Do you have any specific preferences when it comes to the type of adoption? Pets? Additional children?
Adoption Choices of Nevada makes sure to take everything you state and choose the adoptive families that best match with your needs. Keep in mind, though, that there’s no such thing as a perfect or ideal family. That everyone presented is human. So, if there are aspects that vary in level of importance, specify that with your caseworker.
Parental values carry weight for some birth mothers. Particularly if you were raised with healthy, loving and stable parents. Those who weren’t too strict or too loose. So, you’ll have a watchful eye for this when selecting your child’s adoptive family.
However, if you disagree with your parents’ parenting style at all, you’ll automatically seek prospective families that have the values you wished you had. More room to explore. The chance to bond more closely with your parents. A parental unit that shares a slightly more well-rounded view of discipline. At the end of the day, you want your son or daughter to be raised by the best parents possible, who will give them the love and acceptance they deserve.
While the United States may be predominantly Caucasian, we are also known as the world’s “melting pot.” In fact, mixed families are becoming increasingly more common. Studies are showing that families who embrace diversity are developing like-minded children. Young men and women who grow up with a broader view of the world, and who are more excited to learn about the varying cultures around them.
Maybe that’s not what you’re looking for, and that’s ok. Everyone is different, and has their own views on what kind of life they want their child to have. We will harbor no judgement either way.
Similar with ethnicity, determining the importance of religion can be a controversial topic. But it isn’t meant to be. The existence of religion, or the lack thereof, is completely up to you when it comes to selecting your child’s adoptive family.
If you want your son or daughter to be raised within the same blanket of beliefs that you were as a child or young adult, you will most likely have a more positive inclination to find an adoptive family that shares this value. If not, then adoptive families who don’t practice will appear more ideal. Another option is to state your indifference, and leave room for your child to make up their own minds about the topic.
Family structures have evolved past only having a mother and father. Now, there are single parents, multicultural, and LGBT parents. Do you have a preference one way or the other? Do you picture a more traditional family structure, or are you open to one that’s more progressive? When selecting your child’s adoptive family, it’s important that you are honest with your caseworker about this.
Remember that we are non-judgmental and want to find the best family possible for your son or daughter. We use whatever information you give us to provide matches for you.
Other potential aspects of selecting your child adoptive family can include:
- Activity Level – choosing a family who is more active than not, or vice versa.
- Length of marriage – selecting a family who has been together a certain number of years, which could promote the sense of stability.
- Parents’ ages – you may decide on a couple that’s closer in age to you for a variety of reasons.
- Location – Location can hold a lot of significance and feeling of identity. Certain environments, climates or places can capture your interest.
Provide any details or reasons why that you can to your caseworker. Any and everything will help us present the prospective adoptive families that best match what you’re looking for.
Selecting Your Child’s Adoptive Family
Birth moms are always telling us how amazing it is to have the adoptive family profiles during the Matching Process. It truly helps them get a sense of the potential futures that their son or daughter could have, which, in turn, guides them to the best adoptive family. Having a caseworker present and in person also greatly helps. When the choices have been narrowed down, many birth mothers choose to take those selected profiles home to think about it more before making a final decision.
Remember that during the Matching Process you are in control. The prospective adoptive family isn’t alerted either way until you’ve made a decision, so you don’t need to worry about them needing a response at any given time. Selecting your child’s adoptive family is your time. Your moment to go through each profile book, and choose to the best of your ability.
Adoption Choices of Nevada
If you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of Nevada. You may visit the website here or contact us by 775-825-4673 (Reno Office) or 702-474-4673 (Las Vegas Office). Our hours are Monday through Friday, 9am-5pm PST.
Support Adoption Choices
Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.
However, we can’t do it alone. Please read up on our programs and donate money where you are able. Your donation will make a huge impact.
About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
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