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Self-Care In The New Year After Your Placement

By Anabel Sierra 

As the year comes to an end, so do difficult journeys. After an adoption placement, birth mothers may feel a sense of joy or relief. However, with this joy, some lingering feelings of guilt and sorrow may come up as well. These feelings are very normal and we understand that healing is not linear. Some days may be fantastic, while other days may be the worst. That’s why we at Adoption Choices of Nevada are here to help you make self-care post-placement your priority.

Adoption agencies like ours actually include support post-placement in your adoption plan! Putting your baby up for adoption is not an easy task and you are so courageous for it. For now, we have a few ways that you can implement into your self-care plan post-placement.

Physical Self-Care Post-Placement

There are several ways that you can do self-care in the physical sense. Those ways include:

  • Getting enough sleep
  • Exercising 
  • A massage or spa day

Getting Enough Sleep is so important to your physical health. By getting enough sleep, you can reduce the stress and anxiety that you may be feeling post-placement. It can also help you maintain a healthy weight, lessen the risk of heart disease, and simply solve any crabbiness. 

Exercising can also be a form of self-care. Have you ever gone to the gym really upset about something and ended up feeling great after? Getting all of those emotions out during a workout can make you feel lighter mentally. We realize that going through a pregnant adoption can be heavy on your mental state and encourage “working it out” in the gym. 

Getting a massage or having a spa day is a great method of physical self-care. You can let the professional technician work out any stress you may have been holding in your muscles and simply melt. Having your nails done, or a facial can also help you feel rejuvenated. Whatever a “spa day” looks like to you, then do it! 

Emotional Self-Care Post-Placement

Here at adoption Las Vegas, we are all about the emotional support you need before, during, and after your placement. Some ways you can implement emotional self-care are: 

  • Journaling
  • Support groups/therapy
  • Listening to music 

Journaling is an emotional practice where you write everything that you may be feeling as a sort of diary every day. As you cope with your emotions post-placement, writing them down may help. Journaling can also help you pinpoint any triggers, help with self-reflection, and improve overall emotional growth. 

Support groups/therapy are a great way to take care of your emotional well-being. This particular method is something that adoption Las Vegas can provide for you. By being in a support group, you may be able to find others that relate to your situation or feelings. Or, if you choose to go through a one-on-one therapy method, speaking to a professional can help too. Either way, support groups, and one-on-one therapy sessions are all safe spaces for you to discuss how you’re feeling. If you experienced an unplanned pregnancy and wish to cope with those emotions, we can help.

Listening to music may not seem as important of a method of self-care, but it is. By listening to music, you can scream the lyrics, cry, get angry, and let all your emotions out. Afterward, you might find yourself feeling a little less heavy. Adoption in Nevada is not an easy process for a birth mother, and sometimes only the words of another person can help.

Spiritual Self-Care Post-Placement

Spiritual self-care can look like a myriad of things. A couple of ways that you can take care of yourself spiritually may look like:

  • Meditation
  • Spending time in nature 

Meditation is not just sitting still and clearing your mind. While those things may help your emotional state, meditation is a spiritual practice where you can sit and let your mind wander. However, you must gently bring your mind back to the task at hand which is regulating your breathing. This is also considered as practicing mindfulness. 

Spending time in nature is another way that you can implement spiritual self-care post-placement. Breathing in the fresh air and taking time to literally stop and smell the flowers can be transformative. Being in nature can look different to everyone as well. For some, it may be running in a field. For others, it can be people-watching as they sit on a park bench. 

New Year, New You Post-Placement

Here at Adoption Choices of Nevada, we realize that adoption is no easy task and want to really stress self-care. And while we did list off several ways you can perform self-care, there is no “right” or “wrong” way to do these things. Whether you went through the open adoption process, or are simply wondering how to put a child up for adoption, we get it. Adoption Choices of Nevada is here for you every step of the way. If you are a birth mother who is considering adoption, give us a call or stop by one of our centers today.