By Moki Murillo
If you are having an unexpected pregnancy, you must ask, “Can I take care of this baby?” There should not be any shame if the answer is no. If you are not in a position to take care of a baby, you must think about other options. You might be thinking about adoption.
After doing your research, you might conclude that private adoption agencies are your best option for adoption. If you are seeking adoption in Las Vegas, then chances are that you have called Adoption Choices of Nevada. One of our adoption specialists should have told you how adoption works. They should also help you form an adoption plan. This plan allows you to choose the adoption type and provide resources to support you through pregnancy. Once your due date arrives, the adoptive family will take the child home. For a lot of people, this is where the adoption process ends. In our experience, however, the challenges of a birth mother don’t end there.
Choosing to place one’s child into adoption can be an agonizing decision for any birth mother. Although your child will be with a loving family, feelings like regret and guilt can still linger. These feelings can be exacerbated by conditions, such as postpartum depression, and can negatively affect one’s mental health. Thankfully, Adoption Choices of Nevada offers resources to help birth mothers cope with their decisions.
Adoption Choices’ Mental Health Resources
If you are eligible, your adoption plan can provide a wide array of mental health support free of charge. You can make use of these resources at any point in the adoption process. These resources will still be available for six weeks after placement. If you need long-term help and are eligible, you can speak with your adoption specialist to make arrangements.
Therapy During the Adoption Process
Birth mothers suffering through the grieving process can benefit greatly from therapy sessions. The therapy that our adoption agencies offer can even be tailored to suit your specific needs. There are one-on-one sessions, which allow the birth mother to more easily identify and understand their feelings. Sessions with a single professional should help make the issues more tangible and easier to resolve. Alternatively, group therapies can allow birth mothers to gain insights by seeing how others are working through their struggles. These are only two examples that your adoption specialist can recommend to you.
Finding Support Groups During the Adoption Process
Your adoption specialist can also point you to a number of support groups if you need it. Joining a support group can provide a sense of community that might benefit your mental health. Meeting birth mothers at various stages of the adoption process can help you put your own problems into perspective. Isolation is often harmful to birth mothers, so making connections with people who share similar experiences can be relieving.
Going on Retreat During the Adoption Process
There are also other times when you simply need to escape from your problems. That way, you can tackle your problems later when you are more mentally recharged. Ideally, your time away should allow you a sense of serenity and a pause from life’s usual stressors. Nature retreats are often especially effective in that regard. Our agency can provide a variety of retreats that can suit whatever you need at the time.
Finding Peace After Adoption
Adoption often has a perception of finality about it. Despite having valid reasons to pursue adoption, many birth mothers mourn the motherhood they could have had. In our experience, this often leads birth mothers to develop harmful self-images about themselves. This can cause birth mothers to actively avoid having children in the future and the joy it could bring. Out of all the things that need to be said, this may be the most important.
Choosing adoption doesn’t make you less worthy of being a mother. There were circumstances in your life that prevented you from raising this child in an environment they deserve. You recognized that there is a family out there who can give your child a better life. Rather than holding onto them and risking their future, you allowed this other family to take them home. You are being responsible and thoughtful, signs that you will be a great parent when you are ready. This goes without saying, but this reasoning also applies to birth parents who already have children of their own. Choosing adoption not only secures the adoptee’s future but also the future of the children you have.
If you choose an open adoption, you even have the opportunity to see your child. Should the adoptive parents consent to it, you can form a unique relationship with your child. While your child will always love their adoptive parents, this relationship can benefit your child in their new life. You could answer questions about their identity, which is useful if the adoptive parents are different culturally or racially.