The Seven Most Common Questions Birth Mothers have about Adoption
“A birth mother puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart.” – Skye Hardwick
Facing an unplanned pregnancy can bring about many questions. You might know someone with a similar experience, but every situation is different. It’s important to acknowledge that you have options and all that matters is what is best for you and your baby.
There are no right or wrong questions, as it is vital for you to collect all of the facts and information before you make such a permanent decision. Below is a list that Adoption Choices of Las Vegashas regarding the common questions birth mothers have about adoption.
- Can I change my mind?
Laws vary by state; however, once the adoptive parents are awarded custody, you cannot change your mind. We recommend working with an adoption counselor or seeking legal counsel for further assistance.
Before the adoption papers are signed, you can change your mind at any time while you are pregnant. We understand that there are a variety of factors involved, so you are entitled to your decision.
- What rights does the birth father have?
Depending on the state, birth fathers are required to sign the adoption paperwork. Of course, it is better to have his support and cooperation, but we realize that that is not always the case. Each state has different laws pertaining to birth father rights, so this can be discussed with a social worker or adoption counselor.
- Are there any costs?
You do not have to pay anything for the adoption process. Any fees involved are typically paid by the adoptive parents. While you are not compensated for placing your baby for adoption, you may qualify for financial assistance, depending on the circumstances.
Furthermore, any medical costs associated with your pregnancy are often paid for by the adoptive parents. You and your baby’s health are the top priority, so it is important to utilize medical assistance.
- Can I choose the adoptive parents?
You can definitely choose the adoptive parents! Choosing who adopts your baby can offer reassurance that he or she is going to a safe, loving home. Every family is evaluated and assessed to become adoptive parents.
You do not have to choose the family if you do not want to, but this is a great option if you have specific qualities that you would like the adoptive parents to have.
- What types of adoption are there?
There are three types of adoption to choose from — open, semi-open and closed.
- With an open adoption, you and the adoptive parents come to an agreement about staying in your child’s life. This can be through letters, video calls, in person visits and more.
- A semi-open adoptionallows you to have contact with your child and their adoptive parents, but from a protected distance.
- In a closed adoption, you do not have contact with either your child or their adoptive family after you give birth. No identifying information is shared, so your child doesn’t get to know anything about you as they grow up.
- What resources are available for me?
There are plenty of resources available for birth mothers. From financial assistance to emotional support, there are many ways to receive support. Not only are there a plethora of support groups, but counseling and professional support are also widely used resources.
The support does not end after you give birth. This can be a very emotional time, so it’s helpful to use the available resources as you navigate through this journey.
- How do I get started?
To start the adoption process, you can reach out to an adoption professional. Here at Adoption Choices of Las Vegas, our staff is available to answer any questions you have at any time. It is OK if you are unsure of which type of adoption you’d like, if you would like to choose the adoptive parents or if adoption is even right for you. All you have to do is reach out to our team and we will work with you to determine a plan that works.
Common Questions Birth Mothers Have About Adoption
We understand that this can be a scary time where your emotions are at an all-time high. Adoption Choices of Las Vegasis here to help you weigh your options and offer any additional information or clarification.
Know that you are not alone and everything will work out. There is no “right” decision. We know that you will make the right choice for you and your baby.
Adoption Choices of Nevada has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. For information specific to Las Vegas, please visit our sister site Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Las Vegas. For information specific to Reno, please visit our sister site Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Reno. You can also call us to speak to someone now.
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