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6 Things People Get Wrong About Birth Fathers in Nevada

By Charley Lustig

Birth fathers are sometimes a scapegoat for others. This often leaves the term “birth father” to hold a negative connotation. However, birth fathers and birth mothers are actually more similar than seen. Deciding to give a baby up for adoption may easily be the hardest decision they ever make. 

At Adoption Choices of Nevada, our mission is to assist and facilitate the adoption process for all those involved. One way of doing so is to showcase some common misconceptions about birth fathers. 

While we understand that there are situations in which the birth father may live up to some stereotypes. But there are a large number who are very involved in the process with the birth mother throughout adoption. Here are six common misconceptions about birth fathers who choose adoption in Nevada.

Birth Fathers Consent is Unnecessary to Place the Baby up for Adoption

Incorrect. In order to place your baby up for adoption, you will need the approval of the birth father. The last part of the adoption process usually consists of signing a variety of paperwork. There, the father must relinquish his parental rights in order to transfer custody to the adoptive family.

Through our experience as an adoption agency, we know that each adoption journey is different. There are possible exceptions where the presence of the birth father is not required. If you are hesitant about the role of the birth father in your adoption journey, contact your adoption specialist today! 

Birth Fathers do Not Have a Role in the Adoption Process

Usually, the birth father’s role in the adoption process is determined by the birth mother. In this case, she may allow him to participate as much as he wants.  

If the relationship between the birth mother and father allows, he can be a resource for support to the birth mother. The birth father may also be present during every step of the adoption process and through pregnancy adoption help. This includes reaching out to the agency for information as well as attending support groups with the birth mother. There is a lot of freedom pertaining to the scale of birth father involvement in the adoption process. 

Birth Fathers Cannot Contribute to the Adoption Plan  

This is similar to the birth father’s role in the adoption process. With the birth mother’s consent, he is able to be a part of the making of these big decisions. As the birth father, he may share some hopes and goals for the baby and want to have a role. 

Here are some areas where birth fathers can collaborate with birth mothers in part of the adoption plan

  • Deciding on the type of adoption

There are three types of adoption including open, semi-open, and closed adoptions. These are based on the level of interaction you both want to keep with the adoptive family and child. Considering the want of both birth parents, you may find his input on the type of adoption to be beneficial. 

  • Choosing an adoptive family

The baby’s DNA is half of the birth father’s. Maybe he always wanted to be a parent but is in a hard part of life. In his role, he may want to be a part of choosing the home and family for the child.

  • Creating a hospital/ birth plan

Some birth mothers take comfort and support in having the birth father there for the arrival of the baby. Together they can share the moment and be there for one another in the transfer to the adoptive family.

Overall, there are a number of ways the birth father can be involved in the building of the adoption plan. If communication is healthy between both the birth mother and father, we encourage you to collaborate on this journey. Not only will it lift some of the burdens, but the birth father will feel included and useful. 

Birth Fathers do Not Need Support During Nor After the Adoption Process

Unfortunately, many think that adoption is not hard on the birth father. This is often an inaccurate statement. Adoption requires self-sacrifice from both birth parents as they give up their parental rights. 

This is a time when many birth fathers may feel like a failure or disappointment for being unable to parent. They may feel that they have jeopardized both the birth mother and the baby. Sometimes, birth fathers feel guilty for giving up a child for adoption

At Adoption Choices of Nevada, we offer guidance for birth fathers throughout and after the adoption process. We are there to be pillars of support for them in this walk of life. We welcome them to reach out to our adoption counselors and attend the support groups offered. 

The Birth Father Cannot be Involved with the Child Post-Placement 

The birth father can be present in the child’s life as much as possible during post-placement. Just because he is not ready to parent does not qualify him to be banished from the child’s life. 

Their involvement is based on the type of adoption he and the birth mother have decided upon. Through an open adoption, the birth father can have a larger role in the child’s life. When deciding upon an adoptive family, we encourage the birth parents to discuss details with the family prior. 

Birth Fathers Do Not Want the Best for Child and Birth Mother

More times than not, birth fathers do want the best for the birth mother and child. In part of the birth father’s agreement to Reno adoption, they are acknowledging the better opportunities for them. This requires a great amount of courage, bravery, and self-sacrifice. They are giving their child a great chance for success and allowing the birth mother to resume her desired life.  

Contact Adoption Choices of Nevada to Start your Adoption Journey Today

If you are a birth parent considering adoption in Nevada, contact one of our local agencies near you! If you are a birth father or birth mother, we are here to support you in every way possible. We understand that this journey may be taxing. With our help, Adoption Choices of Nevada can guide you through this process with ease and clarity. 

Adoption Choices of Nevada has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can call us to speak to someone now. Contact Us 24/7: 855-940-4673 (Toll-Free) | 702-474-4673 (Las Vegas) | 775-825-4673 (Reno)