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Unplanned and Unhappy: Putting Your Baby Up For Adoption

It happens all the time; you have a short or long-term plan for how you want your life to go, and then you find out you are pregnant. Oh, brother! You are probably thinking to yourself, “now what?” Well, do not worry because here at Adoption Choices of Nevada, we’ve got you covered. If you have found this, you are consideringadoption for my baby.

How Choosing Adoption After Being Unexcited For The Birth Of Your Child May Make You Feel

Whether it is a pushy aunt dropping in for an unexpected visit, or anunplanned pregnancy, we have all had moments in our lives where we had surprises that we were not a fan of. In any case, the shock can leave you with some undesired and negative emotions. The good news is, these feelings are completely normal. You may be feeling:

Alone:  While it may feel like you are alone in your situation, rest assured that you are not. There are other birth mothers just like you who are going through the same thing, if not similar, and feeling similar to how you go about it. The most important thing to remember is that you are not isolated in your adoption process. Adoption Choices of Nevada is here every step of the way to ensure that you and your child receive the care needed to make the process seamless. You can reach us whenever we are needed via phone, email, or text. 

Guilty: Many birth parents who experience an unplanned pregnancy tend to feel a certain amount of guilt for not wanting to keep the child or being unexcited for their arrival. We are here to tell you that putting a child up for adoption, no matter the circumstances, should never leave you feeling as if you have failed or are a bad parent. 

At the end of the day, raising a child only benefits them if their presence works as a part of your life. Therefore, the choice to put them up for adoption should be seen as not only giving yourself a chance at the future you desire but giving the same to your child as well. And why should you feel guilty about giving so many people so many amazing opportunities?

Worried: When putting your child up for adoption, whether they were planned or unplanned, it is natural to feel worried not only about their future and yours but also about how you will be viewed by others for making the decision. The key is to remind yourself that through the adoption process, and with the help of Adoption Choices of Nevada, you will place your child with a loving family who is excited and prepared for their arrival. This means that they will be happy with a family who is just as happy to have them. 

While it is true that some may take a certain negative perspective on your choice to place your child with an adoptive family, the truth is that those individual opinions do not matter and should not sway you in your decision-making. At the end of the day, it is your child, your life, and therefore your choice. If anyone feels as if their opinion matters more than yours on the topic, feel free to remind them who has been pregnant for nine months and who hasn’t.

Angry: If you are pregnant with or expecting an unplanned child, it is ok to be mad. Some think, “why me and why now?” Others feel as if the situation is unfair. Whatever frustration you may feel, remember that it is better not to blame any individual or higher entity and instead focus on what you can do moving forward to control and rectify the situation. One of the best things you can do is plan the adoption process with Adoption Choices of Nevada to guarantee that any frustration you feel will subside as quickly as possible with an easy adoption process. When your blood feels like boiling, rather than funnel your anger into something harmful or destructive, take a breath and give us a call.

Putting Your Baby Up For Adoption in Nevada Without Stress

As you can tell, many parents who are unexcited for the arrival of their child feel similarly. And all of those feelings are valid! The important part about having those emotions is to recognize they are there and use the energy that fuels them to reach a productive solution. In this instance, the best remedy for those baby blues is to reach out to Adoption Choices of Nevada. One call to us today can leave you feeling even better tomorrow!

Adoption Choices of Nevada has been providing adoption and surrogacy services across Nevada since 2012. You can call us to speak to someone now. Contact Us 24/7: 855-940-4673 (Toll-Free) | 702-474-4673 (Las Vegas) | 775-825-4673 (Reno) | 775-738-4673 (Elko) | 775-884-4673 (Carson City).


Meet the Author: Peter is a writer and editor based in New York. Currently studying at Binghamton University, Peter is majoring in English Literature and Rhetoric. Whether working with Marketing Choices or the mental health blog, Runaway, Peter seeks to provide comfort and warmth to those around him through his writing. A huge advocate for change, Peter looks to promote adoption, mental health awareness, disability awareness, and environmental improvement. Forever looking to make meaningful connections, Peter can be found with a group of friends or going on walks and waving to anyone he passes.